Long distance relationships at university

You’ve all heard people say “Don’t go to university in a relationship, it wont last”. Even the strongest of relationships apparently come to a crashing halt, whether that’s to do with distance, rumours, money or other things.

It doesn’t have to be that way though. University tests your relationship, of course it does. You’ve moved away from your home town, meeting lots of new people, going out drinking and partying, it can all take its toll. But there are ways of working around all of these issues, and here are some tips!

• Communication - Don’t neglect each other, make time for one another. Even if you can’t afford train tickets to see them weekly, an hour Skype/Facetime session is all it takes. Keep each other updated on what you’re doing and how you’re feeling, after all, communication is key for a healthy relationship!

• Personal space - Okay, this may sound like it’s contradicting the first tip, but it ties in well. Although communication is important, so is yours and theirs personal space. Don’t feel the need to constantly talk, ring and visit each other as you may find yourself isolating yourself from uni life. Go out and have fun, meet new people and just socialise.

• Expect change - University is a big step for anyone, so don’t expect your relationship to stay the exact same. You’re going to be experiencing new things and meeting lots of different people, so it’s bound to cause a change in the relationship, it doesn’t have to be a negative though. People grow and find themselves at uni, so just respect each other.

• Be honest - It is so important to be completely honest with your other half whilst at uni, especially about how you’re feeling. If you feel like you’re struggling with the change, the worst thing you can do is keep it all to yourself. Talk to them and let them know how you feel, that way you can address these issues and hopefully resolve them.

• Trust - Just trust them. If you feel like you can’t trust them when you’re not with them, then a long distance relationship will never work out. By not trusting them and becoming insecure about what they’re doing or who they’re seeing, it can spark arguments. Just learn to trust each other and respect each others independency.

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